A: You should be kind to your mother and stay with her unless the ruler orders you to perform Jihad. Only then you have to rush to it, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Whenever you are called (for Jihad), you should go immediately. As long as the ruler does not impose Jihad, you should be good and merciful with your mother. You should know that having mercy upon her is a kind of great Jihad, which the Prophet gave priority to over Jihad in the Cause of Allah.
It is authentically reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was told: O Messenger of Allah, what is the best act? He said: To believe in Allah and His Messenger. It was said: What is next? He said: Honoring and obeying parents. It was said: what is next? He said: Jihad in the Cause of Allah. (Agreed upon by Imams AlBukhari and Muslim)
He mentioned kindness to parents prior to Jihad. A man came to take his permission saying: O Messenger of Allah, I like to strive with you? The Messenger (peace be upon him) said: Are your parents alive? He said: Yes. The Prophet said: "Keep to striving in their service." (Agreed upon by Imams AlBukhari and Muslim).
In another narration, He (peace be upon him) said: Go back to them and ask for their permission. If they permit you, then fight (in the Cause of Allah); otherwise be devoted to them. Accordingly, you should have mercy upon your mother and deal with her kindly until she gives you her permission. All this comes under jihad talab (preventive war), if the ruler does not impose Jihad. However, if disaster befalls you, you should defend yourself and your Muslim brothers. There is neither might nor power except with Allah! Thus, if the ruler issues orders to march forth for Jihad, you should obey orders, even without your mother's consent.
Allah (Exalted be He) says: O you who believe! What is the matter with you, that when you are asked to march forth in the Cause of Allâh (i.e. Jihâd) you cling heavily to the earth? Are you pleased with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But little is the enjoyment of the life of this world as compared to the Hereafter. If you march not forth, He will punish you with a painful torment and will replace you by another people; and you cannot harm Him at all, and Allâh is Able to do all things.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Whenever you are called (for Jihad), you should go immediately. (Agreed upon by Imams AlBukhari and Muslim)May Allah guide us all to what He likes and what pleases Him!