I have a sister who is in her fifties; she overlooks many of her son's mistakes related to religion and morals on account of her extreme love for him. She claims that many parents do the same. Please advise her. May Allah reward you the best!
A: It is obligatory upon Muslims to fear Allah (Exalted be He) with regard to themselves, their families, their neighbors, and their all affairs. A Muslim should invite people to Allah (Exalted be He), encourage them to propagate virtue and prevent vice, and fear the blame of no one except Allah. Every Muslim should enjoin goodness and forbid evil with regard to all people including his relatives and beloved ones. It is his duty towards them to encourage them to do goodness and forbid them from doing evil and they will be rewarded for this. Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says, And whenever you give your word (i.e. judge between men or give evidence), say the truth even if a near relative is concerned Thus, it is obligatory upon all the believing men and women to fear Allah (Exalted be He) and fulfill their duties towards their relatives and people in general. Allah (Glorified be He) says, O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allâh, even though it be against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin
Allah (Glorified be He) says, O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones It is obligatory upon the believing men and women to advise their relatives and people in general, forbid the Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect), and enjoin Ma`ruf (that which is judged as good, beneficial, or fitting by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect). It is very important to advise or guide your relatives to goodness. This is better than giving them money, for guiding and encouraging them to do goodness and stop doing evil is more important than money, as this will benefit them in this worldly life and in the Hereafter. Your sister should not abandon enjoining goodness or forbidding evil, because of her love for her son, brother, sister, and so on. She should enjoin goodness and forbid evil in the way that she deems useful and helpful until she succeeds In sha'aAllah (if Allah wills) and is free of guilt.