Q: I have a son who is over twenty years of age and he is a university student. He is always at odds with his mother because she, he claims, yells at his brothers at home. Now he does not greet her and has avoided talking to her for two months, yet he still has his meals and spends the night at home. What am I to do with him as a father, knowing that I advised him but he does not listen and insists on his crooked way? Please, advise! May Allah reward you best!
A: This person is doubly ignorant. He has committed major sin and disobedience. We ask Allah (Exalted be He) to grant us and him guidance. You have to warn him against this sin and prevent him from disobeying his mother, even if it requires that you punish him, prevent him totally from entering the house, or any other form of suitable discipline, as long as advice is of no avail. You can even report him to the police or the court if the parents fail to handle the matter. May Allah set right his affairs, give him sound judgment, and protect him from the evils of his self.